FOSTER CHILD-A BROKEN SILENCE

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Many factors can lead to false allegations of sexual abuse. Young children have relatively accurate long-term memories of events they have experienced and can provide a report of these memories under favourable conditions. These factors include:. The available data seem to suggest that adolescents are more likely than children to deliberately formulate false allegations. However, when very young children are insistently asked leading questions by a parent, in the context of a divorce for example, they may make allegations of sexual abuse that never occurred.

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Cases of sexual assault allegations in situations of divorce or child custody disputes are complex and among the most demanding for legal professionals. They are also among the most time-consuming to investigate. Several factors are likely to promote sexual abuse allegations in these situations.

For example, amid the disenchantment of marital breakup, divorced parents can convince themselves that their former partners are capable of almost anything, including sexual abuse. An erroneous conclusion reached about the care given to a child, increased physical displays of affection developed because of long absences caused by the divorce, or excessive worrying can cause one of the parents to suspect sexual abuse. Intense questioning of the child can lead him or her to confirm what the parent has suggested and thus to make a false allegation.

Such cases are not more common in divorced families than in intact ones, but their assessment is more complex. False allegations of sexual abuse are also likely to arise in contexts where numerous children regularly intermingle, such as sports teams, day care centres and schools. In this case, the allegations are spread by rumour, which, according to Rosnow , serves to explain an otherwise unexplained event that generates uncertainty and personal anxiety.

Rumour circulates as a function of the credibility of its source. Until more extensive research can be conducted regarding the potential impact of rumour on the development of false allegations, it would be wise to consider this possible impact in cases where several children say that they know one of them is being sexually abused.

There is some consensus in the scientific literature to the effect that there is a higher disclosure rate among children whose mother accepts the possibility of abuse, compared with those whose mother refutes the possibility despite third-party confirmation. This phenomenon is commonly referred to as memory contamination. Most studies have focused on interview-related factors, and guidelines have been suggested on the basis of several consistent findings. Tunnel vision constitutes the most insidious pitfall in the investigative process.

According to Van Gijseghem , investigators who approach a file with preconceived notions have a tendency to ask questions that confirm their beliefs. To avoid falling into this trap, professionals police officers, social workers, prosecutors must endeavour to obtain information from several sources and to analyze all of it in the light of multiple hypotheses. At least not audibly. Could I tell she was struggling? But not wanting to probe and potentially be hurt, I kept silent. So sometimes the dances intensified.

She finally told me recently that even though she witnessed friends doing that to their parents on occasion, she could not bring herself to hurl those words for she knew rightly so that they would wound me too deeply. Thinking back now, I saw her bite her lip more than once. Sometimes her pain must have been so great.

But she chose silence. So, on the eggshells, she continued to walk. And other times, danced around it all. Me, too. A sensitive soul herself, this adoptee, stopped before she railed. I was unaware she was dancing alone in her world while I did the same in mine. Delicately tip-toeing on the eggshells every day — oh. The all-too-familiar adoptive parent struggle: even if or when you know your birth family, will you still consider your dad and I to be your family?

If you are an adoptive family and this sounds like something happening in your life, perhaps you could look for signs in yourself and your children. Perhaps your kids are suppressing their emotions. Perhaps you are, as well. As parents we probably wouldn't want to call attention to the fact that we struggle not to be ourselves in deference to how it might make them feel.

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I am now of the option that we find the glory when we honor our rightful position for we are, by rights, parents and our adopted child is really our child! In talking with adoptive and other parents, I believe now that all parenting could be considered dancing, but adoptive parenting and adopt-eeing in general might brings up some extra sensitive and raw emotions.

Deep down, each parent and child, each human being is seeking acceptance. Please understand me!

Because we understand your desire to know them, to even be with them, but—just the same—we love you and want you to still love us and accept our love as one true and bona fide child—no matter what? Learning that she danced, and knowing how it felt to dance myself gave me perspective. Because she could be as honest as she has, I have decided to do the same. She has become much more herself.

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She voices. My husband and I voice, too. Current and future trends in how people communicate tell us that attention spans are getting shorter and shorter, and organizations need to get their messages across in a more compact way. We think this will be the optimal way to create public awareness about the plight of children in foster care, and why they so desperately need a family to adopt them.

Of course, some of our messages will also include a way for you to contribute financially to our mission. We hope you will like our new way of sharing our work with you. Perhaps it will even prompt you to contribute your own adoption story, by sending it to us. How old is too old to look for a family? At 31 years old, I still need my parents.

Think about it, when was the last time you reached out to your family? Was it your parents, a sibling, an aunt or uncle maybe a cousin? Did you call them? Did you text them? Did you see them at a holiday gathering? For me, I talk to my mom almost daily. A quick text, a short check in, something as simple as trying to get a dinner idea.

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They drove me to drop me off at college. They listened to me homesick on my telephone calls. They picked me up and brought me home over holiday breaks.

They sent me care packages. They gave me advice on my first job, my first apartment and my first car. My parents were there on my wedding day. My parents were there when my children were born. They were a phone call away when I had a panicked, new-mom moment.

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I have a place in reality, too many places to go on holidays. Our holidays are scheduled around visits with parents, grandparents, aunts and uncles, and cousins. Even though we may sometimes grumble through some visits, or have tired, whiny kids at the end of the day, I have somewhere to go. I have a place that is familiar and warm. Recently we have had the opportunity to feature older children on our TV segment, and in print. The most recent was youth 19 years old, almost It is true that these children can vote, join the military, buy cigarettes, etc.

Without finding a family, who is there embarrassing, I mean cheering, them on at their high school graduation? Who is there with advice on how to get a job, budget their bills, pay their taxes? Who is there to share in their joys and help them bear their sorrows? Where do they go for Thanksgiving? Who hands down family recipes to make their favorite meals? We are committed to helping these children find a family for as long as we can. Whether you are 5, 18, 35, or 95 you still need a family.

I am a member of the Board of National Adoption and I have leaned on my fellow board members and our staff for insights into adoption ever since our son, Adam, came into our lives in , just two days after his birth. I have learned that asking for insight is essential…but advice is the tricky one…because nothing is ever precisely the same. Right now I am fresh into experiencing living without the physical presence of my soul mate…the father of our three children and the wind beneath my wings. He crossed over Christmas, , in his sleep.

It has to be my unique crafting that forms my vision for now and the future. This is what is hardest and what is also the most reassuring. So, know there is no ONE way to address issues of adoption, relationships, love or loss.

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They will grow and thank you for this…and more. All of us see life through a lens. A lens that we adjust to bring our life picture into—or sometimes out of—focus. As families, youth, and their workers arrived at registration, what struck me first was the blend of timidity and hope in their faces.